Why sex talk makes men insecure

                                        Sex expert Nadia Bokody. Picture: Instagram.

                                        For 10 years Nadia Bokody’s work has been about helping people have better sex – but there’s one predictable response “fragile” men always have.

                                        Husband's sex bombshell after affair

                                        Young couple lying in bed under blanket at home. Boyfriend sleeping, pensive and frustrated girlfriend thinking about relationships break up or treason. Problem in sexual life or childlessness concept

                                        Her husband cheated, she took him back – but the only problem was his infidelity caused an unexpected issue in the bedroom.

                                        Expert’s new coronavirus sex rule

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                                        Safe sex during the coronavirus pandemic might soon require protection beyond just the nether regions, a study claims.

                                        Man floored by wife's sex secret

                                        After being “shut down” for years, one husband was shocked to discover the X-rated secret his wife was keeping from him.

                                        Surprising sign partner may be cheating

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                                        Think your partner can’t cheat during lockdown? Think again. Sam X reveals the surprising signs to look for.

                                        Sex workers try to slow spread of virus

                                        Sex workers have revealed the position they’re relying on to keep them and their clients safe during the global COVID-19 pandemic.

                                        Why I tell women to leave their husbands

                                        Nadia Bokody  on why she tells women to leave their husbands.

                                        We’re told any relationship is worth fighting for – but Nadia Bokody says there’s a good reason why you should break up with your boyfriend.

                                        Why husband wants wife to cheat

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                                        The couple are in a loving relationship and have a small child together – but the husband has a particular “itch” he wants his wife to scratch.

                                        Cruise marks end of couple’s sex life

                                        Relationship rehab this week. Picture: iStock.

                                        Around 18 months ago the couple went on a cruise and had “great” sex – but since they’ve returned, there’s a been a problem.

                                        Wife’s sex request floors husband

                                        Relationship Rehab Picture: iStock.

                                        The man said his wife’s X-rated bedroom request left him worried he is not giving her what she wants – so what should he do?

                                        Graph proves ‘Aussies are boring in bed’

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                                        What we’re like between the sheets can reveal a lot about our personalities – and it turns out, Australians are more vanilla than we may think.

                                        Your weird sex questions answered

                                        We’ve had a lot of time to think lately (between all the handwashing), and if your mind has wandered to the weird and wonderful side of your intimate life, we may just have the answers.

                                        ‘Weird’: FaceTime first dates amid pandemic

                                        People Facetime dating during quarantine. Picture: istock

                                        Singles swiping right during Australia’s lockdown are still dating – but instead of meeting in bars, they are getting together via FaceTime - with mixed results.

                                        Should you stop having sex?

                                        Australians are learning what social distancing means in most scenarios … but what about the bedroom? Should you stay 1.5m away from your partner?

                                        Wife reveals why she’s ‘faking’ in bed

                                        She loves her husband and they used to have a great sex life but that changed seven years ago and now she is desperate for help.

                                        It’s time to start stockpiling orgasms

                                        Sex and love during coronavirus. Picture: istock

                                        Research shows we’re more likely to have sex during a time of crisis. If you are being forced to stay inside, you may as well enjoy yourself.

                                        Unusual reason man pays wife for sex

                                        The frustrated husband came up with the unorthodox solution as he “needs” sex a certain amount of times a day – but is it healthy?

                                        Escort baffled by man’s racy request

                                        As a high class escort, Samantha X is used to unusual requests from her clients – but this one left her feeling extremely “confused”.

                                        Risky truth about making Aussie porn

                                        Nadia Bokody goes on a porn film set. Picture: Instagram/Nadia Bokody

                                        Nadia Bokody went behind-the-scenes of an adult film, only to discover there’s more than one precarious detail. WARNING: Graphic content

                                        Awful reason bride couldn’t have sex

                                        Kendra, pictured on her wedding day, Kendra sank into depression – fearing she would never have a normal sex life Credit: PA REAL LIFE

                                        When Kendra got married she was looking forward to a night of passion – only to be left unable to consummate their marriage for 12 years.

                                        Wife’s sex problem with ‘perfect’ husband

                                        Everything about their relationship is “perfect” except for this one detail — so, how can it be fixed?

                                        Woman’s confusion over first date sex

                                        A woman says that sometimes she wants to have sex even if she didn’t plan on having a second date — so, what’s the best approach?

                                        ‘I went to sex therapy and got a shock’

                                        Nadia Bokody sex therapy. Picture: Instagram/Nadia Bokody

                                        Not one to shy away, sex columnist Nadia Bokody put her intimate life on the line this week to explore the surprising world of sex therapy.

                                        Scientists reveal unusual sex habit

                                        Angela and Bradford are scientists who have been married for the past seven years. They reveal how they keep the spark alive.

                                        ‘My boyfriend won’t have sex with me’

                                        A woman has written of her confusion over the fact that in the past six months her boyfriend hasn’t wanted sex. Ever. What’s going on?

                                        ‘I spent the day in a brothel’

                                        Nadia Bokody visits a brothel. Picture: Instagram/Nadia Bokody

                                        When sex columnist Nadia Bokody set out on a mission to learn what really goes on inside a brothel, she got more than she bargained for.

                                        Ad that’s too racy for Australia

                                        Supplied  Honey Birdette has censored ads in its Mardi Gras campaign

                                        A lingerie chain has said it will have to censor an image it is free to show in the US and the UK because it would fall foul of the Aussie ad police.

                                        ‘I went to a Canberra kink party’

                                        Consent is key to all encounters in the club. Picture: Yasmin Idriss

                                        It’s a nondescript building hidden in Canberra’s suburbs – but what goes on inside would make the author of 50 Shades of Grey blush.

                                        Why wife refuses sex with husband

                                        A desperate man has revealed how his wife won’t let him touch her and never instigates sex – as well as the reason why.

                                        Wife’s ‘sad’ sex after kids admission

                                        Mother of four and blogger Jessica Hood. Picture: Instagram/@Houseofhoods.

                                        A Melbourne mum blogger has revealed there’s something she won’t let her husband do in the bedroom — and she’s not the only one.

                                        ‘I went to a Sydney sex party’

                                        Nadia Bokody sex party. Picture. Instagram/Nadia Bokody

                                        Nakedness, orgies and booze — sex columnist Nadia Bokody had no idea what to expect at her first “adult party”. Here’s what went down.

                                        Awkward ‘experiential’ sex toy test

                                        Awkward ‘experiential’ sex toy test

                                        Kerri Sackville knew sex was on the agenda at an “experiential” tour of a sex toy warehouse – but one moment pushed her to the limit.

                                        Man’s despair over GF’s ‘bad’ sex drive

                                        The couple are “compatible in every way”, except when it comes to the bedroom – where things are “bad”.

                                        Toyboy spills on sex life with 80yo woman

                                        Toyboy spills on sex life.

                                        Egyptian Mohamed Ahmed Irbriham has lifted the lid on his relationship with the pensioner – after she said he left her “saddle sore”.

                                        Silent sexual epidemic affecting men

                                        The silent sexual epidemic affecting men. Picture: Instagram/Nadia Bokody

                                        It can affect one in four men so why is no one talking about it? Nadia Bokody looks at the issue of getting it “up” before men hit 40.

                                        X-rated find in woman’s bladder

                                        The woman was rushed to hospital to have t

                                        The woman had been fooling around with her boyfriend when she suddenly had a “sharp pain” – leading doctors to a shocking discovery.

                                        ‘You’ll ruin your sex life doing this’

                                        Kids ruin your sex life. Picture: Instagram / Nadia Bokody

                                        It’s one of the most rewarding things you can ever do in life – but it’s also a major bedroom killer, writes sex influencer Nadia Bokody.

                                        My wife’s shocking sex confession

                                        They’d been happily married for years when she confessed something that left their relationship in tatters and him devastated.

                                        ‘Debilitating’ reason man couldn’t have sex

                                        Man avoids sex for years. Picture: iStock.

                                        For years, he was plagued by “debilitating” symptoms every time he got intimate that sometimes lasted for weeks. Now doctors know why.

                                        Married porn stars’ secret to ‘great sex’

                                        Porn star husband and wife share secret to successful marriage. Picture: Twitter / Cassie_Ibiza

                                        They get paid to have sex with others for a living — but Cassie and Dorian del Isla don’t get bored in the bedroom. Here’s why.

                                        Husband’s despair at sex with ‘perfect’ wife

                                        He loves his wife and doesn’t want a divorce – but something that started going wrong on their honeymoon has driven him to despair.

                                        Taboo sex trend nobody’s talking about

                                        Nadia Bokody column for news.com.au. Picture: Instagram/

                                        According to research it’s one of the most common ways we experiment sexually – so why aren’t we talking about it more?

                                        Mum’s honest ‘sex after kids’ confession

                                        Mum's brutally honest account of parent sex

                                        Melbourne mum-of-four Jessica Hood has spoken candidly about the extreme but relatable lengths she goes to for some bedroom action.

                                        Husband’s sex demand for younger wife

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                                        He’s 50, she’s in her 20s – now he’s demanding increasingly “experimental” sex but his latest request has left her stunned.

                                        Real reason women are ‘bad’ in bed

                                        Nadia Bokody on bad sex. Picture: Instagram/nadiabokody

                                        It’s time to clarify what “bad sex” actually means, says sex columnist Nadia Bokody. WARNING: Graphic

                                        Sexy text you should never send

                                        You think you want to do it - but you don't. Picture: iStock

                                        It’s the text almost every single person has composed at some point, usually while drunk – but here’s why you should never send it.

                                        Five ways to have better sex in 2020

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                                        Forget quitting sugar or losing weight – these New Year’s sex resolutions will actually change your life – and relationship – for the better.

                                        Sex question men are dying to ask

                                        Nadia Bokody on the most bizarre sex questions she has been asked. Source:

                                        You’ve heard the saying “size doesn’t matter” but it doesn’t mean men aren’t preoccupied as to whether or not they stack up, writes Nadia Bokody.

                                        ‘You’re married to the wrong person’

                                        Nadia Bakody on why you're married to the wrong person. Picture: Instagram

                                        Ever wondered if you’re coupled up with the wrong person? There’s a major reason why you probably are, writes sex expert Nadia Bokody.

                                        ‘Ludicrous’ myth ruining your sex life

                                        Nadia Bokody on what she learned the year her sex life went viral. Source: Instagram/

                                        An alarming amount of people make this mistake — and it’s so ridiculous, it’s comical says sex columnist Nadia Bokody.

                                        Cheating boyfriend’s despicable sex excuse

                                        ‘Sex with you is a chore’. Picture: Instagram / kadie_holmes

                                        When Kadie Holmes discovered her long term partner was cheating, she was hit with a second blow when he blamed a bedroom “chore”.

                                        Country’s disastrous sex problem

                                        Bad news if you’re a man in South Korea – a growing number of women are swearing off sex and marriage in protest against the patriarchy.

                                        This is how to turn a woman on

                                        Jaw-dropping new research shows we’ve been getting it wrong when it comes to female desire, says Nadia Bokody.

                                        Jaw-dropping new research shows we’ve been getting it wrong when it comes to female desire, says Nadia Bokody.

                                        My wife doesn’t want to have sex

                                        They’ve been married for 10 years – but for the past five, she’s been forcing him to endure something that has him questioning their relationship.

                                        Sex workers share clients’ bizarre fetishes

                                        ITV: A Very Yorkshire Brothel

                                        Sex workers are earning about $380 an hour through a variety of fetishes such as popping balloons and wrapping up men in cotton wool.

                                        X-rated way woman makes $1k per day

                                        Scarlett stars in videos with her husband and says it gave her confidence after becoming a mother. Picture: Supplied

                                        Every day, Scarlett Rose rakes in hundreds of dollars without even leaving her own bedroom – and she’s never been happier.

                                        ‘Why men are really terrible in bed’

                                        Nadia Bokody on the reason most men are bad at sex.

                                        While some men think they’re Don Juan and Casanova all rolled into one, the truth is much more disappointing, writes Nadia Bokody.

                                        What ensued when I asked 100 men for sex

                                        Nadia Bokody is a freelance writer and and Instagram influencer. Continue the conversation on Instagram |?@nadiabokody

                                        Sex columnist Nadia Bokody propositioned strangers on dating apps and discovered something very unexpected.

                                        ‘I can’t bring myself to sleep with her’

                                        It can be hard to be the person with the lower sex drive

                                        This man worships his wife, but no matter what he does, he can’t bring himself to have sex with her. She’s convinced he’s cheating but he’s not.

                                        Sex scene porn star wishes he never filmed

                                        Supplied  US porn star Johnny Sins is coming to Sexpo in Melbourne

                                        He’s the former tradie whose 2500-plus pornos have been downloaded 52 million times — but one weird scene still makes him cringe.

                                        Figure-hugging outfit ‘too sexy’ for work

                                        Woman cautioned for dressing too sexy.

                                        Nadia Bokody was left furious when her boss pulled her aside and commented on her figure-hugging office outfit, calling it “too sexy” for work.

                                        Porn director spills on sex fantasies

                                        Porn stars pose for Erika Lust. Picture: Instagram/Erika Lust

                                        Porn director Erika Lust has revealed the top three most common sexual fantasies - and they’re not what you might expect.

                                        Office ‘banter’ that could end marriage

                                        Girl looking at her colleague with love in her eyes while he is talking

                                        She has a husband and three kids at home, but when her male colleague started flirting, she flirted back — now things have gone too far.

                                        What your job means for your sex life

                                        Samantha X

                                        A few weeks ago, Samantha X revealed what a man’s job means between the sheets. This week, she’s covering all the ones she missed.

                                        Four words that will reboot your sex life

                                        Nadia hears from hundreds of people who can talk about anything with their partners - except what they want in bed. Picture: Instagram

                                        Not satisfied with the action you’re getting between the sheets? There are four “magic” words that have the power to change everything.

                                        Rape risk ‘must be free to pursue sex’

                                        man and woman hands having sex on a bed.

                                        A man who does not understand consent must be allowed to pursue relationships despite posing a “moderate risk” of raping women, a court has ruled.

                                        Surprising reason women lie during sex

                                        Think your partner has never faked it? She has. Picture: Supplied

                                        Think your partner has never faked an orgasm in bed? Think again. Nadia Bokody says all women have, the reason why is not what you’d think.

                                        ‘My girlfriend is sexting another man’

                                        Woman on bed write message by phone, closeup

                                        After an awkward argument, this woman revealed to her partner she was still in contact with her old “friend with benefits”.

                                        Girl exposes ’forbidden love’ with teacher

                                        When Maggie Wilken was just 17 her teacher began an illegal sexual relationship with her. What happened next became part of a bestselling book

                                        Unicorn trend at swingers parties

                                        Unicorns are the new attendees at swingers parties. Picture: iStock

                                        Unicorns are usually mythical figures only spoken about in fairy tales, but they’ve now become a surprising attendee at swingers parties.

                                        What your job says about your sex life

                                        Samantha X

                                        From tradies and cops to accountants and lawyers, former escort Samantha X reveals exactly what to expect in the bedroom based on his job.

                                        Why your wife doesn’t want sex

                                        Part of the problem is that female pleasure is still stigmatised in society, let alone openly discussed during Sex Ed. Picture: Supplied. Source: Instagram @nadiabokody

                                        Not getting as much action as you’d like? Nadia Bokody knows where you wife’s sex drive has gone and what you can do to get it back.

                                        Samantha X gets real about threesomes

                                        Ever wondered how it works when there’s three in the bed? Resident sexpert Samantha X reveals how threesomes really play out.

                                        ‘The truth about my sex addiction’

                                        Nadia Bokody's shocking sex confession

                                        A year ago, Nadia Bokody sat on live TV and made a confession — she was a sex addict. But the truth is something even more shocking.

                                        Sex secret that could destroy my marriage

                                        Beautiful young girl with relationship difficulties standing sad in the bed

                                        They’ve been together 10 years, have two children and are “best friends”. But she’s got a secret and it’s tearing their marriage apart.

                                        Samantha X: What men want in bed

                                        Samantha X

                                        Sexpert Samantha X has revealed that what we think men want in bed is in fact the complete opposite — and you could be doing it all wrong.

                                        Question people ask about my naked selfies

                                        Forget about modesty - that's what Photoshop is for. Picture: Instagram

                                        Nadia Bokody shares hundreds of raunchy selfies on Instagram every year — but she’s still horrified by the question she gets asked the most.

                                        Samantha X reveals her big sex secret

                                        Samantha X column for news.com.au

                                        In a new weekly column for news.com.au, sexpert Samantha X reveals the juiciest secret she learned working in the escorting business.

                                        Sami Lukis’ surprising confession

                                        Sami Lukis has reached a milestone in her dating life - she hasn't had sex in a year. Picture: Supplied

                                        After a year of dating debacles, Sami Lukis recently hit a major milestone and it’ll shock you to discover what it is.

                                        ‘Why my husband withholds sex’

                                        the argument of men and women

                                        Just one year into their relationship, her husband started refusing to have sex more than once a year — and the reason why is unexpected.

                                        ‘Tragic reason I can’t have sex’

                                        Extreme stress affects sex drive in profound ways. Picture: Unsplash

                                        For years, they had a healthy sex life — but three years ago, something so terrible happened, this woman has found sex impossible.

                                        Wife makes me ‘sexually awkward’

                                        They’ve been married 10 years, most of them happily — but something has changed to bring this man to the point of “total frustration”.

                                        What being a sex writer was really like


                                        I used to dream about being a sex and dating columnist, just like Carrie Bradshaw was. So here’s my Sex and the Cityversus reality.

                                        Couple’s ‘shocking’ bedtime swap

                                        Young Beautiful Couple in Underwear Lying on Bad. Hadsome Man and Attactive Woman in Love. Passionate Romantic Couple Resting after Sax at Home. Passion Intimate Relationship and Love.

                                        We all have our preferences in the bedroom but thousands of people have chimed in on this couple’s habit, declaring it too much.

                                        ‘My boyfriend is demanding orgasms’

                                        female in glamour black and pink lingerie sits on a wicker basket made of rattan on a window background

                                        A man climaxing during sex is a given, but when he demands his partner does too — for his enjoyment, not hers, it’s an issue.

                                        Mistress: ‘How I became a dominatrix’

                                        black and white photo with passionate woman on black background.

                                        She was just a 21 year old from the Melbourne suburbs when she went for the job interview that would change her life.

                                        Sex therapist granted through NDIS

                                        A woman who requires the help of a sex therapist to “obtain sexual release of any kind” has won her bid through the NDIS.

                                        Problem with latest sexting trend

                                        closeup of a young caucasian woman face down in bed using a smartphone

                                        There is absolutely nothing appealing about getting one of these images and in some cases it’s downright creepy, writes Kate Iselin. Warning: Sensitive content

                                        ‘Extreme’ way 21yo found porn fame

                                        Instead, the student was recruited as a hardcore porn actress earning £750 an hour

                                        A woman has revealed the unusual way she stumbled into a lucrative career as a porn star, earning a huge $1300 per hour.

                                        Inside mining town’s last brothel

                                        This week, the second last brothel in Kalgoorlie shut its doors, leaving the Questa Casa the only remaining “house of ill repute”.

                                        Why X-rated sex toy review went viral

                                        Nadia Bokody reviews sex toys for a living, and she

                                        A hilarious review of a woman’s personal massager gained global attention this week but it wasn’t the laughs that made it go viral, says Nadia Bokody.

                                        Viral bride brutally dumps husband

                                        A woman who made headlines after she married her husband on their first date has ended their romance to pursue an X-rated hobby.

                                        Reality of women taking sex drugs

                                        Shot of a young couple lying in bed and ignoring each other

                                        Men have taken Viagra to boost their sex lives for years and a new injection promises to do the same for women. Should they try it?

                                        ‘Should I tell him I cheated with my ex?’


                                        This week, our resident sexologist, Isiah McKimmie, tackles a cheating girlfriend, a nervous lover and an undecided possible bride-to-be.

                                        Luxe life of teen with 7 sugar daddies

                                        She admits some of the sugar relationships are sexual. Picture: BBC3

                                        A teenager with multiple sugar daddies has revealed details of her relationship with the men, including playing dress-ups in exchange for gifts.

                                        My life as a 54yo sex worker

                                        Kate Iselin column: Life as a 54-year-old sex worker

                                        Kate Iselin thought she knew everything about sex work. But after meeting a street-based worker, it turns out there’s a lot she didn’t.

                                        The hidden world of online dominatrixes

                                        Financial dominatrix for news. com. au

                                        For Sara Bakeman, an average day is not like the rest of us. In fact, what’s average for Sara may sound strange or bizarre to us. Here’s why.

                                        ‘I’m threatened by my husband’s ex’

                                        Sad couple after an argument lying in bed; woman angry, man trying to cheer her up

                                        This week, our resident sexologist, Isiah McKimmie, tackles a threatening ex-wife, a dry sex spell and how often is too often for intimacy.

                                        Star’s racy admission crashes the internet

                                        Love Island star Curtis caused chaos when he revealed what is favourite sex position was. Picture: ITV

                                        A British star caused a frenzy when he revealed something very personal, sending fans into a spin figuring out the racy details.

                                        Weird new way couples are having sex

                                        A new sex trend might be taking some bedrooms by storm. But for this married couple, the depriving nature of it didn’t go over well.


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